Talking with a seasoned master of the game.

I asked: Why insist on “push and pull”? Can't you just be straightforward and be nice to someone? He said: Because human nature is disgustingly greedy.

I asked again: What exactly is this so-called “unattainability”? He lit a cigarette: It’s making her feel that you can love her at any time, but you’re never truly hers.

He told me a case: A guy chased a girl, bringing her breakfast every day for half a year, and in the end, all he got was a “good person” card. I made him disappear for a week, then sent a photo of him at a high-end bar with another girl (only half of his shoulder showing). That night, the girl went crazy and messaged him asking where he was and who he was with.

Me: Is this the top-level emotional manipulation? He: No, this just exploits human greed and insecurity. When you show “you don’t need her,” she’ll get the illusion of “I must have you.”

Later, I realized that those who constantly shout about equality and respect are often the ones most deeply hurt by those who play with unattainability.

Don’t hate the tricks; study the tricks. Because in love, no sincerity can beat human instinct.